Norms: Individual Vs. Society- Versus

Word Count: 430

Gordon, Emma

Period 4, Filmmaking

“Eye” of the Universe

Norms: Individual Vs. Society-Versus

What Exactly Makes Me Different?

I’m a different breed of teenage girl. I am the outgoing person who everyone thinks is weird. I am the girl who goes up to you and makes random conversations. I love who I am. I love the person I am becoming as I grow up. Because I am the outgoing person I am, nothing stops me from telling boys I have crushes on them.

The norms that people judge on are that girls are not equal to guys. Guys always have to be the more dominant one in the relationship. Girls have to wait by the phone for a guy to call and they are disappointed if they don’t. This is the normal teenage stereotype. I don’t know if I am at all like these girls. I take initiative to ask out the guy or call the guy. It hasn’t failed me yet. But there is one guy who I’m afraid if I am my normal outgoing, initiating self, he won’t like me…

I have been outgoing my whole life, especially with boys. Boys are my whole life. I have had many crushes throughout my life and most of those relationships, I’ve instigated. I’m usually the person to start the relationship. Boys are usually scared to ask out girls. I understand that now, so I just go for it. If I get turned down, well that’s life. I cannot dwell on the past. I just move on. My crushes come and go. But I will always wonder what my life would be like if I dated that one special guy.

Matthew. He was my best friends boyfriend. I had the biggest crush on him and we always flirted. I could tell instantly he liked me too. My best friend and I broke off our relationship. But I still talk to Matthew. I really don’t know what my life would be like if I dated him. I still have a crush on him, but I am in a relationship. I really don’t know how to act around him. I do not condone cheating. It is totally out of the question. But when I talk to him, I just get tempted to tell him how much I miss him and tell him my feelings. This is the only time I am afraid of what guys will say if I share too much of my heart with them. It’s one thing to be turned down, it’s another thing to be heartbroken. I wouldn’t know how to deal with it if Matthew ended up breaking my heart. But I guess we’ll find out…